Imago Relationship Therapy is a method of Couples Therapy that helps people to understand the unconscious factors of their relationship. The word "Imago" is Latin for image and has been used as a term to describe the inner imprint that matches the type of person we seem destined to fall in love with. “Imago Relationship Therapy” reveals how the relationships of your childhood, are unconsciously being replayed with your partner right now. It also teaches you and your loved one how to relate to each other in a more nurturing and loving way.
When you fall in Love you see things through a pink cloud and think that the feelings of being alive, whole and connected to everything around you will last forever. Your partner seems perfect and being in love brings out "the best" in both of you. One day you wake up realizing that magical feeling has disappeared.
This is the time when the power struggle in your relationship starts. You can suddenly see that your partner is not perfect after all and he can’t provide all of your needs, as you were hoping for. He pulls away because you are suddenly more demanding. In response you might intimidate, control, criticize, withdraw, manipulate or blame and both of you can get locked into a painful power struggle which can last for years. Either of you might consider to brake up or feel desperate to regain the magic you once had.
You also stop listening to or hearing each other, or expect to become mind readers. Unintentional triggers of your childhood are being displayed which cause emotional reactions that have little to do with the issues at hand. Once those things get out of hand both feel confused, hurt and disconnected.
Without having the awareness to what has happened you feel unsafe & start building up walls of resentment toward your partner. You escape into other activities which could be drinking, your career, your kids, hobbies, friends, or starting an affair....
"Once our primary connection shifts away from our partner, there is a strong possibility that our relationship won't have a future", by Harville Hendrix
Do those struggles sound familiar to you? Imago Relationship Therapy can show you new ways to reconnect, love your partner and being loved again.
In imago relationship therapy, the therapist will introduce techniques to you that can help to find some relieve from the resentment you might have built up toward each other. You will be taught how to slow down your escalating fights, learn how to communicate in a calmer way & listen better to each other. This will make room to have a better understanding where you and your partner is coming from. Each of you will get more insights about your upbringing and how your unresolved childhood issues are still interfering & affecting the conflicts you are currently having with your partner.
When you remain unaware of the hidden agendas toward each other, you will repeat your mistakes. You need to understand that conflict is actually growth trying to take place. By becoming aware and resolving your problems through the techniques that “Imago Relationship Therapy” offers, you can transform with your significant other into a more powerful bond then before. This transformation will give you the opportunity of becoming more self-aware, have a better connection with each other and your relationship can grow into a much deeper and more satisfying true love.
Once you learn feeling emotionally safe again with each other and become more aware and in touch with who you really are, you can grow and become truly authentic with yourself and one another. That is the time when you begin to love your partner for who he really is, and you are loved for who you really are.