Imago Relationship Therapy is a method of Couples Therapy that helps people to understand the unconscious factors (the Imago) in their selection of each other.
The word "Imago" is Latin for image and has been used as a term to describe the inner imprint that matches the type of person we seem destined to fall in love with. “Imago Relationship Therapy” reveals how your relationships of your childhood, are unconsciously being replayed with your partner right now. It also teaches you and your loved one how to relate to each other in a more nurturing and loving way.
When you fall in Love you see things through a pink cloud and think that the feelings of being alive, whole and connected to the world and the people in it will last forever. Your partner seems perfect and being in love brings out "the best" in both of you. Soon or later, you wake up realizing that magical feeling has disappeared and both of you are left with revealing who you really are.
This is the time when the power struggle in your relationship starts. You can suddenly see that your partner is not perfect after all and he/she can’t provide all of your needs, as you were hoping for. Since your partner is unable to provide those needs, or pulls away because of you being more demanding. You might intimidate, control, criticize, withdraw, manipulate or blame your partner and both of you can get locked into a painful power struggle which can last for years. As a result you either brake up or seek help, being desperate to regain the magic you once had.
When the power struggle starts you stop listening or hearing each other, or expect to become mind readers. Unintentional triggers of your childhood are being displayed which cause emotional reactions that have little to do with the issues at hand. Once those issues get out of hand everyone feels very confused, hurt and disconnected.
Without having the awareness to what had just happened you feel unsafe, start building up walls and resentment toward your partner. As a result you escape into other activities which could be drinking, your career, children, hobbies, friends, or starting an affair....
"Once our primary connection shifts away from our partner, there is a strong possibility that our relationship won't have a future", by Harville Hendrix
Do those struggles sound somewhat familiar to you? Would you like to restore the love and passion you’d once experienced with your partner? Imago Relationship Therapy can show you new ways to reconnect, love your partner and being loved again.
In imago relationship therapy, the therapist will introduce techniques to you that can help to find some relieve from the resentment you might have built up toward each other. You will be taught how to slow down your escalating fights, learn how to communicate in a calmer way & listen better to each other. This will make room to have a better understanding where you and your partner is coming from. Each of you will get more insights about your upbringing and how your unresolved childhood issues are still interfering & affecting the conflicts you are currently having with your partner.
When you remain unaware of the hidden agendas toward each other, you will repeat your mistakes. You need to understand that conflict is actually growth trying to take place. By becoming aware and resolving your problems through the techniques that “Imago Relationship Therapy” offers, you can transform with your significant other into a more powerful bond then before. This transformation will give you the opportunity of becoming more self-aware, have a better connection with each other and your relationship can grow into a much deeper and more satisfying true love.
Once you learn feeling emotionally safe again with each other and become more aware and in touch with who you really are, you can grow and become truly authentic with yourself and one another. That is the time when you can fall in love again, but this time with who your partner really is, and you are loved for who you really are.